Good Attitude To Wives In Islam
The Lord encourages men to treat their wives as best they can:
“Live with them with dignity” (Quran 4:19).
The Messenger of Allah the most High said: “The best of the believers are those who have a better disposition. The best of you are those who relate best to their wives ”(At-Tirmidhi). The Prophet Muhammad, (SAW), reports that the worthy attitude of a husband to his wife reflects his good character, which, in turn, speaks of his deep faith. What exactly is called decent behaviour? A husband’s smile speaks of his benevolence, his desire to protect her from evil reflects his care, pleasant remarks testify to his courtesy …
The husband must be open and patient, listen to the wife’s opinion, be interested in her concerns, help and support. It is not necessary to discuss important topics when one of the spouses is “not in a good mood”. Conversation, understanding, the ability to come to a compromise – the most key moments of family life.
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Loving and caring husband supports and inspires his wife, knows about her interests. He remembers that no woman is indifferent to compliments. “I like your idea,” “this dress suits you so much!”, “I love hearing your voice on the phone” … Simple but sincere compliments will always have their fruits.
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People are imperfect. The Messenger of the Most High said: “A believing man should not hate a believing woman. If he does not like some trait in her character, he will be satisfied with her other trait ”(Sahih Muslim).
A husband should not hate his wife because of one of her qualities, because, in addition to negative ones, there are positive qualities in any person. You just need to be able and willing to see them. One way is to make a list of those traits that a husband appreciates in his wife. Here one should be as specific as possible and focus precisely on the character traits, and not on what the wife does for the husband, as the Messenger of the most High advised. For example, a man likes how dexterously his wife manages around the house, in which case one of her qualities to which attention should be paid may be organization. Husband should note positive qualities such as honesty, kindness, loyalty, justice, confidence, tenderness, optimism, sense of humor, etc. Such a list will help the spouse to see his wife in a different light and appreciate her positive aspects.
Once, A companion asked the Messenger of Allah (saw) about what is the wife’s right to her husband. He said: “When you feed her with what you eat yourself, dress her as you dress yourself and do not hit her on the face. Do not do her any harm and do not distance yourself from her, except within the house. ”
Conflict marriage is inevitable, and this leads to anger. Although anger is one of the most difficult to control emotions, the first step towards controlling it can be to forgive those who hurt you. In the event of a conflict, the husband should not stop talking to his wife and emotionally traumatize her, but he can stop sleeping in the same bed if this improves the situation. Under no circumstances, even when he is angry or somehow feels right, the husband is not allowed to be rude to her, using offensive words or hurt her.